Family Separation Coaching
Supporting Families Through Emotional and Conflict Coaching
Family Separation Coaching offers personalised support from experienced coaches who truly understand the emotional complexities of family separation. Our focus is on reducing conflict, managing emotions, and fostering positive outcomes for individuals and families navigating this challenging period.
With empathy and firsthand insight, we help you manage your unique situation, offering strategies to improve communication, build resilience, and find clarity. We provide practical guidance and heartfelt support every step of the way.

Our goal is to empower you with real life lived-experience, practical guidance and resources to navigate each step with resilience and confidence.
This service provides tailored, one-on-one guidance to support you through this challenging journey, whether you're Newly separated or planning to separate, or Facing high emotional situations in the Family Court
Emotional and Moral Support
Separation can bring up a range of intense emotions. Our coaching helps individuals learn self-healing techniques to manage stress, grief, anger, and other feelings that may arise during this difficult time.
Conflict Resolution Coaching
We help parents address ongoing conflict by providing conflict coaching and strategies to communicate more effectively. Our aim is to minimise adversarial interactions and encourage peaceful resolutions.
Co-Parenting Coaching
Effective co-parenting is vital to your children's well-being. We provide strategies for creating healthy co-parenting, improving communication, and working through disagreements in a constructive way.
Communication Coaching
Providing techniques for establishing clear boundaries with an ex-partner while maintaining necessary communication regarding the children and other co-parenting issues.
Financial Adjustment Coaching
Helping parents plan for financial changes post-separation, including managing child support, budgeting household, and seeking financial assistance through agencies, if needed.
Resilience Building
In addition to helping manage the current challenges, we work with individuals to help them plan for their futures—finding new ways to cope with change, rebuild confidence, and create a positive environment.
Child-Focused Coaching
Our service prioritizes the best interests of children, helping parents understand how to support their children emotionally during a separation and minimise their exposure to adult conflict.
Parenting Strategies During Separation
We provide guidance on practical parenting approaches during separation, helping you adjust to new family dynamics, maintain consistent routines for children, and adapt to co-parenting schedules
Decision-Making Support
We provide guidance on practical parenting approaches during separation, helping you adjust to new family dynamics, maintain consistent routines for children, and adapt to co-parenting schedules.
Understanding Safety Concerns
Helping parents understand what the safety concerns are and how to address them to professionals. Managing perception and expectations and emotional detachment during the process.

Strengthening Families with Insight, Empathy, and Community-Led Support.
This service is driven by community coaches who trained and experienced conflict coaches and Counselors and mediators who have lived through similar experiences firsthand.
This means you’ll receive compassionate, practical support from individuals who truly understand the challenges of family separation and the realities of high-conflict situations.
We empower you with practical guidance and invaluable knowledge to navigate the complexities of separation, manage parental conflict, and peaceful strategies to make informed decisions.
Support during Your Family Separation Journey
Feeling confused or uncertain during family separation is completely normal. You are not alone ! This overwhelming period involves difficult decisions and emotional challenges, and even small missteps can adversely affect your recovery and your family.
Our community-led initiative offers personalised, one-on-one support from trained conflict coaches and mediators who understand your situation. You don’t have to face this journey alone; we’re here to support you every step of the way.

The Family Separation Coaching offers personalised support to address your unique situation, focusing on creating a pathway that minimises conflict and enhances positive outcomes for you and your family. Whether you’re managing issues around child care arrangements, guardianship disputes, relationship property division, or finances, we provide practical guidance to support you through every step.
Experienced Coaches
Our team consists of experienced professionals, including conflict coaches and those familiar with the emotional impact of family separation.
Tailored Support
We provide personalised coaching sessions based on your unique family situation, offering the support you need to move forward.
Community-Focused
As a community-led initiative, we are committed to supporting families, empowering individuals to work through their challenges.
Practical Strategies
We provide realistic strategies that are designed to be effective in real-life situations, helping you focus on your children’s well-being

Explore the FAQs for more information
Check out the Frequently Asked Questions to find answers and more information about this service.
What parents say about us
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Reagan- Auckland
After battling in court for almost 6 years, finally I have the Final Parenting Order sealed – yayyyy -. I reached out to FDSS around 8 months ago, hoping nothing as I actually started to doubt my own insanity. Having no family in this country and no background knowledge of NZ court system, I did not have good supports, especially against 2 opponent lawyers. I spoke to Zayne who had patiently listened to my complaints & problems. Not only Zayne guided me and gave professional advice and information – much more that I ever received from my previous lawyer -, but he actually believes me from day 1, an act that restored my faith in myself. Zayne had also willing to speak to the other party in order to get my child back again into my life.
I can’t say “THANK YOU” enough to Zayne Jouma for all the times he spent on supporting me with my case and worked hard to make it work. I am and will be forever grateful for the supports, from the phone calls, time, and preparing affidavits; and most importantly having contact my child again. I wish I knew Zayne & FDSS much earlier so all the unnecessary sagas/circus in the court & expenses could have been avoided.
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Rebecca - Wellington
Lucky we approached FDSS at the early stages of my separation. There was alot of severe damage on my relationship with my children. They were refusing to have contact with me. Zayne did the magic ! He spoke with the father and arranged to meet both of us. The knowledge he shared with us was invaluable. After many meetings, now we have agreed to the parenting issues and drafted a very detailed and structured agreement. Also, we are in the process of discontinuing all the family court proceedings. Amazing people ! I am lucky i met Zayne at the early stages.
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John - Auckland
We have been stuck in the family court over 3 years. Although i and my former partner did not reach an agreement using FDSS. However, during my interactions with FDSS, i have gained alot of knowledge and understanding of the court perspective issues regarding the children. The joint sessions i have attended with my former parents were amazing. It helped me to clarify her position and concerns and made me sort out some issues, which i never knew they existed. The sessions we had were really good, where each of us were allowed to speak and express our emotions confidentially in a private setting. better than sitting in a room with lawyers and each of us worried to say something or speak freely because it might be taken against us in the court
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Frequently Asked Questions
General Questions
Family Separation Coaching provides emotional and conflict resolution support for individuals going through separation. Our goal is to help you navigate this challenging time with practical strategies, emotional resilience, and effective communication techniques.
No, this is not a therapy or counselling service. Our coaching is solution-focused and practical, providing guidance and strategies to help individuals navigate separation with minimal conflict.
The first 3 hours fee is by donation, after the 3rd hour, the fee is $50 per hour which is heavily subsidised – thanks for the community grants.
Yes. Our coaching service includes conflict coaching, where we guide you on how to improve communication, resolve disagreements, and create healthier co-parenting arrangements. We help you learn practical techniques to reduce conflict and foster cooperation, benefiting both you and your children.
We do not provide legal advice. Our focus is on emotional support, conflict resolution, and co-parenting strategies.
If legal assistance is required, we can guide you on how to seek appropriate legal support.
Co-parenting is challenging during a separation, but our coaching helps you navigate this. We provide strategies for setting clear expectations, building trust, and communicating effectively with your co-parent, even during times of stress. Our aim is to minimize conflict and encourage mutual cooperation for the benefit of the children.
While parents benefit greatly from this service, anyone experiencing family separation can benefit, including extended family members, caregivers, and individuals who are dealing with the emotional impact of the separation.
Yes, our coaches are trained in conflict resolution and provide strategies to manage high-conflict interactions and minimise stress.
During a coaching session, you can expect a safe and supportive environment where you can discuss your concerns, explore emotional challenges, and receive personalized advice. We focus on helping you identify practical strategies for dealing with emotional issues, improving communication, and resolving conflict.
- Emotional and Moral Support – Techniques to manage grief, anger, and stress.
- Conflict Resolution Coaching – Strategies to de-escalate conflicts and improve communication.
- Co-Parenting Coaching – Guidance for healthy co-parenting and managing disagreements constructively.
- Resilience Building – Helping individuals regain confidence and plan for the future.
- Child-Focused Coaching – Ensuring children’s emotional well-being during separation.
- Parenting Strategies During Separation – Helping parents adjust to new family dynamics and routines
Yes, we provide coaching to any parent or caregiver going through separation. Our goal is to help both parents manage the situation in a way that benefits their children and themselves. The other parent need to register separatley to this service and deal with a separate Coach.
Yes, we provide coaching to any parent or caregiver going through separation. Our goal is to help both parents manage the situation in a way that benefits their children and themselves. The other parent need to register separatley to this service and deal with a separate Coach.
During an initial consultation, we assess your situation and recommend the most suitable coaching service for your needs.
We offer both online and in-person sessions depending on location and availability. However, we always prefer the sessions to happen online on Microsoft Teams or Zoom or the phone.
Sessions typically last between 45 to 90 minutes, but this may vary depending on your needs.
This depends on your situation. Some individuals find relief after a few sessions, while others benefit from ongoing support over a longer period.
The number of sessions depends on your individual needs and goals. Some clients may benefit from just a few sessions, while others may choose to continue longer. We tailor the coaching process to fit your specific situation and goals.
To get started, simply contact us to schedule an initial consultation. We’ll discuss your current situation, identify areas where you need support, and outline a plan for coaching sessions. From there, we’ll work together to help you manage your separation and move forward in a positive direction.
Yes, all coaching sessions are confidential. We provide a safe space for you to discuss personal and sensitive issues without fear of judgment or disclosure. Your privacy is a priority.
If you need support between sessions, we can provide additional resources or suggest ways to manage immediate concerns. We aim to ensure you feel supported throughout your separation journey.
Yes, sure we usually assign female coaches to female parents and male coaches to male clients
Usually, we prefer online or the phone but it can be done in-person depending on your location and if we have available coaches in your area. Extra charges may apply, if you require in-person.
We provide guidance on how to support your children emotionally during separation, including minimising their exposure to conflict and creating stable routines.
We focus on helping you develop strategies that work even in difficult co-parenting situations. While we cannot control the other parent’s actions, we can help you manage your responses effectively.
Coaching sessions are typically for adults. However, if child-focused coaching is needed, we can discuss ways to support your child indirectly.
Our coaches are trained professionals, including conflict resolution specialists, mediators, with lived experience in family separation – so they have been in siumilar situation like you !!
We are a community-driven initiative, meaning our support is built on real-life experience and a deep understanding of family separation challenges.
We can provide ongoing support or refer you to additional resources, including legal professionals, mediators, and support groups.
Yes, if you know someone who may benefit from Family Separation Coaching, you can refer them to us, and we will reach out to provide more information. Just send them the link of this page to request a call back.
You can reach us by requesting a Call Back, and one of our team members will be happy to assist you.
Simply request a callback through our website, and we will guide you through the next steps.